Actions speak louder than words

Human beings are the only creatures on earth that have the ability to express themselves through words. We have come to believe that speaking is a powerful thing when it comes to communication.
Blogs, magazines, books, conversations, seminars are all about words.

In one of my previous posts I mentioned that "a picture is worth a thousand words" which it is because it goes beyond vocabulary. Yet pictures are open for interpretation and different meanings. It is difficult to capture a picture in which one can show a universal meaning.

Looking at this photograph, one can say that these children are crying. Or maybe they're camera shy. Perhaps they are just fooling around. From this photograph it is very difficult to conclude whether they are happy or sad or any emotion at all. A caption would be needed to describe the meaning of the image.

Yet vocabulary is a very tricky thing because actions are involved in this matter as well.
I strongly believe that words are meaningless and lose their power if there is no intention of acting upon them.
How many times have you found yourself in a situation where someone tells you sorry multiple times but keeps repeating the same mistake over and over again? How often did someone tell you that they are always there for you resulting in not being there when you need them?
Will you keep believing what they say risking the fact that you get disappointed time after time or will you start believing in their actions instead which is saying that they don't mean what they say?

“People may not tell you how they feel about you, but they always show you. Pay attention.”

People might have the intention of not wanting to hurt your feelings, so they tell you things which eventually don't match their actions later. Even though the intention was not to hurt you, it does not justify the fact that they have been lying to you which is in my opinion the worst thing a person can do.

As a quite naïve person I tended to believe people for their words resulting in being screwed over an over and ending up being the one who was hurt and disappointed I've come to learn to get to know people by what they do and not by what they say. Or better said, I started to pay attention to both.
I can promise that as you keep practising you will be amazed in how much people are not saying but definitely showing. Just trust your intuition and don't be afraid to trust other types communication rather than words.

"If someone is consistently inconsistent, and their actions don't match up with their words, it's time to let them go."

Anything that gets our blood racing is probably worth doing

I have been having this enormous adrenaline rush in my body for the last few weeks and even though I slightly know what the reason for it is, I still think there much more behind it.

It feels like I'm living on the edge, being in a roller coaster that has endless ups and down. Several times a day I experience that feeling of going up and down. It is exciting though and maybe sometimes it is better just to accept it and keep enjoying the ride instead of looking for reasons of why things are the way they are.

“Life is like a roller coaster. You can either scream every time you hit a bump or you can throw your hands up in the air and enjoy it”

This state that I'm in might be disturbing or weird for outsiders because sometimes it looks like I am completely disconnected from reality, acting impulsively, flying around like a butterfly.
Sometimes I get being told that I shouldn't stress out this much and that I just need to relax which is completely understandable from their point of view. But as long as the ride is still enjoyable, as long as the ride is still going, I don't see any reason to stop.

Maybe it's not even a roller coaster ride, but just having a messy head that is floating somewhere, just dreaming. Maybe I just get hit by reality every now and then which causes the rush of adrenaline. Or maybe it is just who I am. Maybe this is life!

 

A picture is worth a thousand words

This is how it looks inside my head right now

This is the experience that I'm craving for currently

This is the city I'm dying to travel to (Istanbul)

This is what I'm scared of

This piece of work fascinates me

This is what I'm proud of

Say no to anorexia campaign

Every now and then this anti-anorexia campaigns come up who are promoting a healthy size and are trying to fight the pro-ana websites. A good thing one might say, but every time I come across these adds, this huge rage inside me rises and all I can think is: 'You campaign-makers have no idea what this whole disease is about!'

 When I read the title of the campaign 'say no to anorexia' I'm wondering how you can say no to a psychological disease! I have seen campaigns who tell you to say no dementia or cancer, but these are campaigns that support people who are suffering from them.
What happens with the anorexia campaign is that these is absolutely no compassion towards people who are actually suffering from anorexia.
I think by now most of us know that anorexia or any eating disorder of its kind is not about how thin you are. Becoming thin is one of the physical and visible outcomes of the disease, but in the end it is all about control or a coping mechanism.

So I would say, at least change the name of the campaign 'say no to pro-ana or thinspiration' but even then would this help? Would this add scare people off from pro-ana? I highly doubt so. These girls (or boys) want to look like the real-life models they see in pictures (which most of the time are photoshoped) who look glamorous and not like sketches.

To keep young people away from the pro-ana sites, I would say, focus on the issues they are facing (insecurity) and try to emphasize on it and put a positive spin on it. The Dove campaign which focuses on the beauty of each individual and which tells you that size does not matter!

My final message to those campaigns is: get your research right before you publish these kind of campaigns. To everybody who calls sometimes calls someone an anorexic: do some research about the disease to know what you're talking about. And if you still don't understand, experience it to finally know what it is about.
And finally to everybody who glamorises being thin: one day you will find out how much you have been fucking up your body and that life is so much bigger and more beautiful than that piece and size of flesh and bones you're longing for.